Men and women are different on just about every level. We keep repeating this basic concept because society at large keeps acting like they’re the same!
Physically, genetically and emotionally, gentlemen and ladies are unique creations that work best complementing and not mimicking each other. They are NOT designed to be identical.
One of the worst mistakes dudes often make is acting like the women they are interested in is “one of the guys.”
Men make a living in their relationships inventing creative ways to make fun of each other. Sarcasm tends to be their native tongue. The art of verbal self-defense and flipping a quick disparaging comment designed to lighten a tense moment, is standard fare in the land of dude conversations.
The other characteristic about men’s vocal jousting sessions is no matter how low a blow is, if those in the group think its funny and laugh, then the expectation is that when the chuckles die down the subject is forgotten. Men take their shots, receive their linguistic lashings and move on.
NONE of these elements apply to the fairer sex!
Women do not appreciate the standard “make fun of you as humor” styled conversations. If you want a women to stick around, you better learn to leave the quips and condescending attitude at the dorm.
Because of the differences in brain wiring and aptitudes, women discern intent, tone and subtext of language whereas guys focus on the main point or ultimate truth of a conversation.
Ladies will not enjoy your acidic attempts at humor thinly veiled as a flirting pick-up line.
But don’t take our word for it. We invite you to use your patented “slam bam wanna go out ma’am? type of conversation habits and see how far it gets you. We’ll be here when you return.
Maybe you’ve found some girls around the office or at school who pretend to jump into the verbal fray with some guys at break or in casual settings. But once the relationship trends in the attractive/romantic direction, you can bet their tolerance for sarcasm in lieu of respectful and kind conversation, will drop faster than your checking account on Black Friday.
Another pro hint for you just because we’re feeling generous.
Women don’t forget! Ever!
Guys don’t remember half their friends real names let alone what was said to them last Wednesday. Women on the other hand, will recite to you with a colder-than-Antartica stare, a word-for-word rendition of what you said to or about them that was mean or disrespectful or just plain nasty. Forget days fellas, ladies can remember this stuff for years!
Back to brain wiring. Its true men only speak around 1/3 the number of words per day as their lovely counterparts. So you better make them count! That is if you want a real relationship with a woman. No lovely lady is looking for an obnoxious self-absorbed, foul-mouthed bully to connect with for the long term. “Kindness is killer” when it comes to wooing a woman.
You don’t always have to know the right words to say, but they better be nice words, thoughtful words or loving words.
Yes women love romance. However, we have a news flash for you guys, most of what women find romantic is what a man says and not just what he does.
Here’s a quote from our “King Dude of Wisdom, Solomon:
“When you speak healing words, you offer others fruit from the tree of life. But unhealthy, negative words do nothing but crush their hopes.”
So, gentlemen, what needs to change in the way you talk to women?
#BeNice. #ToneIsOntheThrone #SoftAnswerWins #WordsHurt #MeanDudesLiveAlone. #KindnessIsHot
