Let’s face it guys, the world isn’t really setting the bar of expectation very high for us anymore. Technology and changing times have enabled a slow descent towards neanderthal status for too many of our gender. But is that what you want? How have these low expectations impacted our ability to connect with a woman in a deep and meaningful way? What cant we do to change this situation?
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It’s a gentleman’s game fellas. In this tip we offer some solid ways to wow and woo the woman of your dreams.
A common mistake made by dudes is speaking to women they are interested in as if they were "one of the guys." In this Pro Tips installment we bust some myths concerning male-female communication and drop some wisdom that will help you build a connection with a member of the opposite sex.
Let’s face it guys, the world isn’t really setting the bar of expectation very high for us anymore. Technology and changing times have enabled a slow descent towards neanderthal status for too many of our gender. But is that what you want? How have these low expectations impacted our ability to connect with a woman in a deep and meaningful way? What cant we do to change this situation?
Welcome to the Gentleman’s studies division of DateU. Gentleman? Yep, we chose the term Gentleman specifically. It may sound outdated but there is more to the word than you might think.
According to Merriam Webster, gen·tle·man | \ ˈjen-tᵊl-mən. 2: a man whose conduct conforms to a high standard of propriety or correct behavior.
This is important because you’ll be looking for a woman who has high standards when it comes to men, which reveals the fact that she too is a person of high caliber and virtue. Your first benefit to joining is that we’ve just upped your dating game. Your welcome.
Also, just in case you and the dictionary aren’t on speaking terms these days. We’ll throw in another.
Propriety. pro·pri·e·ty | \ prə-ˈprī-ə-tē : the quality or state of being proper or suitable : appropriateness. 2: fear of offending against conventional rules of behavior especially between the sexes
There it is, a whole school in our university dedicated to high standards for men and an understanding of appropriate behavior between the sexes. For short we’ll call it “Gents.”
Men and women are completely different and at DateU, we celebrate this fact with course ware specifically designed for dudes. Our goal is to equip you with some knowledge, skills and relational awareness that will launch you into your personal journey of becoming internally irresistible.
To kick off our Gents coursework, we bring you the first in a series. We call it “Pro tips for guys.”
The question that has evaded men for centuries. Books have been written about the subject, movies have been made and songs have been sung and yet so many are still so clueless.
Like the rest of us, women want a lot of things. But when it comes specifically to relationships and what they are looking for in a man, there are just a few primary items. The good news for us gentlemen is that the list is not too long and we are well able to rise up to meet the challenge.
But the real question is…are you willing?
So what’s the secret, Victoria? What are you looking for? Here’s your answer Gentlemen,
Surprised? Confused? Think that’s wrong?
Let’s start with the basics. In our definition we’re referring to the idea that women want to know their man has both the resources to help provide for them and has a plan for advancement in life. In addition, they want security in the relationship itself. We’ll take these elements one at a time.
Financial security. Unlike guys who will drop everything for a girl who “pegs their needle” visually speaking, women are looking long term. Sure they like nice things, and diamonds will always have a special place in their heart, but if you want a real shot at the woman of your dreams you need three things:
A job (one that pays enough for you and her to thrive not just survive)…She’s not depending on you for all the cash as most ladies have their own career, but they absolutely want to connect with a guy who’s “going places” vocationally. Translation-it doesn’t matter where you are starting (entry level, etc.) its more about where you can go and if you have the motivation and drive to move up in the world.
Commitment/integrity: When a woman talks relational security, she’s asking you if you are going to fully invest in this or not. Ladies don’t want to always be looking over their shoulder to see who you’ve got your eye on next. They want want to know if you’re in a relationship with them its ONLY with them and not 5 other girls you’re stringing along.
Adult independence: Yep son, time to leave the video game dungeon in the basement and move out of Mom’s place to join the rest of the world above ground. Women are looking for men who do adult things and have adult plans and goals. Nothing says “boy” more than a guy who lives at home when he should be out on his own. Roommates are fine, just ensure they’re not your parents.
Still struggling to believe? Still caught in the dangerous web of thinking that “women view the world like I do?” (the quickest path to relational bankruptcy on earth)
Word to the wise. Relational insecurity makes a women crazy! They will overlook some of your minor faults, they will forgive timidity or awkwardness and the occasional mismatched sock, but they will lose their ever-loving minds if they feel insecure. Ignore this advice at your peril!
Consider this Mr. Skeptic. Ever heard the phrase “Sugar Daddy?” Ever been surprised to see images on the web of some hot woman next to a nerdy, frail rich dude? Or better yet, some bombshell in her mid 20’s connected to an old guy in his 40’s or even 50’s with grey hair standing next to his Porsche, private jet or mansion?
What is literally unimaginable to most guys has been actually quite common on the XX genetic side of the fence since the beginning of time. Women search for security and will sacrifice a guy with good looks for it nearly every time. Not only will they choose security in the end, but they find it quite appealing, attractive, even sexy. Much the same way you feel about a beautiful, smart woman.
So, now that you know exactly what it takes to attract a woman of quality and character, do you have what it takes?
- A job with possibilities of advancement.
- Motivation/work ethic to achieve some level of financial success.
- A commitment to fidelity in a relationship and the integrity to live it out.
Some soul-searching would be good right about now. Take an honest look at your life and see if you possess these necessary attributes. If so, great. If not, what can you do to begin to acquire them?
When will you start?
