In a decidedly “dude friendly” way, we are cutting to the chase. Pro Tip #6 is entitled “be a student of the game."
Dudes by nature are competitive…and that’s a good thing…competition drives achievement and advancement both personally and corporately.
We compete with our buddies in sports, in video games, at work and pretty much anything else that comes to mind.
This old school slang “be a student of the game” literally means to listen, do your homework and always be willing to learn in order to elevate your “game.”
To gain the upper hand in any competitive environment, smart guys study, learn, practice and acquire new skills.
When it comes to dating and relating to the fairer sex, what you hear is what you get!
Guys who build successful connections with the ladies either in dating or marriage relationships, have taken this phrase “be a student of the game” to heart and added it to their personal playbook.
This strategy works for designing creative blitzes for an NFL 3-4 defense as well as mastering the latest software, tools and resources to ensure your value rises on the company’s org chart.
But what does this mean in context of the relational “game?”
It begins with some key points of understanding. Number one on that list goes like this:
1. Look in the mirror and tell that guy he doesn’t know as much as he thinks he does about his favorite XX chromosome combination. He may be suave, dashing and wear expensive cologne, but if his commitment to self-education regarding the feminine mind and soul is lacking, he’ll be spending a lot of time alone staring into that mirror.
2. Remember the cardinal rule of men-women relationships: WE ARE NOT THE SAME! Consider a short list of radical differences between the sexes:
• Brain wiring,
• Hormone differences,
• Movie preferences
• Purchasing habits
• Verbal communication styles and quantities
• Video game addictions (or the lack of them)
In each case, more often than not, men and women are polar opposites. SO, you need to pay attention to them in order to learn:
• What they like or don’t like
• What interests them (activities, music, cuisine preferences, etc.)
• What they are like as a person (character, values, morals and opinions, beliefs)
Guys who do none of these things are called single. And they will stay that way until they’re willing to leave “it’s all about me” world and courageously visit planet reality.
You see fellas, in planet reality, girls are interested in guys who are interested in them.
No Clyde, we’re not just talking about sex. (That’s a whole other subject for another post)
So how do girls know if a guy is interested in them?
These guys demonstrate their interest by being “students of the game.”
- They listen to what women say.
- They choose activities, events and locations for their get-togethers their lady might find interesting or appealing. (information retained from previous conversations)
- They show a willingness to talk about the woman’s interests, hobbies and topics she enjoys.
You don’t have to morph into something or someone you are not. This is not about being fake or manipulative. It’s about learning what makes the other gender “tick.” Once you gain a little insight, then you simply make choices that take a woman’s preferences into account.
Girls are impressed by men who speak to them in a kind and friendly manner. Put that note high in your playbook gentlemen. Cussing like a sailor 24/7 is disrespectful in the presence of a lady and it makes you sound unintelligent. Time to start talking like an adult.
Ladies are attracted to strong, confident and decisive men. So, it’s time to expunge the squishy “I dunno, what do you want to do?” tripe from your list of “go-to” responses. Get a plan, make a decision, take some action. There, we just raised your date-able score by 50%. You’re welcome.
When in doubt, bring a gift. All ladies love gifts, and they are especially impressed when you remember important details about their life. It shows you cared enough to pay attention. So, your playbook entry here should read “type a note in the phone if you won’t remember.” Additional pro tip, don’t trust talk-text.
Fellas, you don’t have to make relationships complicated.
Watch
Listen
Remember
And then make plans, decisions, and act accordingly.
Be a student of the game.
